Earlier today, Connecticut joined the ranks of Massachusetts and California to
allow gay partners to marry. I’m completely against this notion for several reaons that I plan to spell out later. The question I’m often asked is “How does a gay person getting married make things different for straight people?”
It’s questions like this that shows just how ignorant people can be when they support a position so blindly. Think about that question. It makes several major assumptions:
- Changes in marriage laws doesn’t make current marriages any different
- Changes made by government do not effect the private lives of citizens
- Straight people’s marriages are no better thank gay marriages
- The person stating this question assumes that they completely understand why those “rednecks and Christian fundamentalists” are living in the past and don’t care about the rights of others
There is something seriously wrong in our society when dialog and understanding are taken over my attacks and ignorance. I have yet to have a real conversation with anyone who supports gay marriage who doesn’t get defensive and can debate maturely. If you think you can do this, please feel free to contact me.
But let me get to the point. I don’t support gay marriage for one major reason: symantics is no replacement for law.
The debate over gay marriage is not based on facts or a real fundamental right. It is based entirely on emotions and wordplay. Now before you say that I’m making assumptions, allow me to present my case.
When I hear those who support gay marriage talk, the ‘facts’ they present are often misguided. I remember one particular person say, “Well, only 50% of hetrosexual marriages actually last. Don’t you think gay people should be able to marry?” This person completely disregards the notion of why 50% of hetrosexual marriages end in divorse and completely ignores the fact that study after study have shown that a gay couples break up more frequently and more often than hetrosexual couples. According to a recent UCLA study, this number is 50% more likely in gay men and a stagering 167% in lesbian women.
Showing the facts don’t support their case doesn’t work. One person responded, “Well, it should still be their right! Why should hetrosexual couples have more rights than homosexual couples?”
This question shows at face-value that the debate isn’t about science or psycology. It’s about emotions! The “rednecks and Christian fundamentalists” have NEVER argued that they have more rights than homosexual couples. The fact that the question is phrased this way forces “rednecks and Christian fundamentalists” to be on the defensive. And of course, when you’re defensive, you sound more condemning. The reason behind this is that the left has consistantly used rhetoric to stir people to action. “Pro-choice” and “Equal rights” are their mantra. And to an observer, they sound great! Who doesn’t want to give people choice? And who in their right mind would want to restrict people’s rights?
But the question I ask these people is “To what end?”
What has bothered me the most about those who support gay marriage is that they refuse to support pedosexuals and help protect their rights. I will only support gay marriage if and only if EVERYONE gets the same rights and privilages. You see, when people say “equal rights”, they really are saying “special rights” because they won’t admit that “equal rights” would extend to pedosexuals and beastialsexuals. Why, I must ask, do these people not deserve the same rights?
Why is it impossible for a pedosexual to be a kindergarden teacher? When I asked someone this (a gay person, I might add) said, “Well, pedofiles can’t control their urges.”
It wasn’t that long ago that society as a whole believed this about homosexuals too. In fact, homosexuals made the argument that they, in fact, can control themselves and aren’t sexual deviants. So what is it that makes homosexual couples so special? Is it because it’s now considered okay? That it is accepted into main-stream?
The only answer that I’ve been given is no answer at all.
Please don’t misunderstand me: I don’t think hetrosexuals, homosexuals, or even pedosexuals are any different. But the discussion that gay people have made is that they are different. But when people make this argument, it is often misguided. I understand that people feel passionately about this issue. There is nothing wrong with that. But when arguments are based on emotions and rhetoric, you must be prepared to be challenged. Simply saying, “Well, if you love someone, you should be able to get married.”
If love was the only qualification, then I still ask: “Why can’t I marry a rock? I love my rock. I have had sex with my rock. The rock is my beneficiary when I die. Why can’t I marry it?” The response to this question has often been, “So, you’re comparing homosexual relationships to a rock?” And my response is, “No. I’m comparing love to a rock. You cannot prove that my love for a rock is different thank the love between a gay couple or a hetrosexual couple.”
The problem I have with gay marriage is not gay people. It’s that people that support gay marriage aren’t open-minded enough others who are struggling to have “equal rights”. And until that is done, I will continue to oppose gay marriage.